Shugaev Ilya Biography

Ilya: - Yes. And, here, there I also told him everything, there I am to him mathematics and then to me, when they dealt with the children because - why do we need all these 33 decisions? We would have one, at least Leontiev: - Dad knew too much! Ilya: - And, in general, we had the feeling that you are smart! I thought: “Now, I will show that I am better than this teacher who, there, asked the task there and, then, ended with the fact that one of the daughters says:“ Dad, you know why Vanya went to chemistry?

Well, because physics and mathematics were completely blocked by you! You crushed him with your knowledge. And chemistry was the only opportunity where he could realize himself. ” Yes, in chemistry I am zero, and, in general, I never liked the Matzan: - Maybe this is protected? Ilya: - Maybe. But, here it was too - a revelation. Matsan: - I had a similar case, but I only had two children, and the eldest is engaged in piano with a very good teacher - just a golden teacher.

And I tried in every possible way to him, at first, to help - to engage in piano at home, I play myself, and it seemed to me that, now, I would explain to him and help him. And all something was not going on until I stopped doing him. And then - everything turned into! When I gave it to him, one thing-here, you and the teacher decide what you are doing, and I, if necessary, will help you, but I don’t climb-here he somehow woke up, at least I only had to complete myself!

Leontyeva:-Well, yes Ilya:-Yes, here, such and such passions are all Leontiev:-Father Ilya, you have a priest's family. Very often how to make this authority does not turn into authoritarianism? This is a question that I have from the ones that we have now discussed. And do I need to think about it? Ilya: - Well, I think you need. In general, the correct idea of ​​what, indeed, the head of the family is very important.

And, it seems to me, here is the despot - who is this? Which everyone around is to blame. And the head of the family is one who takes responsibility, which himself, well, if the father says: “Well, you are all sorted out,” if he does not take responsibility, then he is not quite or, now another example. Suppose I returned from work. And, now, the child runs up to me and says: “Dad, can I go for a walk?

Did you get around the house? Everything is fine? Go, walk! Authoritarianism, but the child came running: “Can I walk? I allowed! He did not do it, then I decided - let him walk! Because the real chapter - he should not be afraid to be, that is, the ruler, the president - he cannot know all his sides to him to choose wise and good advisers. And wisdom, probably, the boss is to have good advisers.

Therefore, the husband must know that the wife is normal - ask, find out the situation. Because it is better than a wife, no one knows the atmosphere in the family. She is at home and she calmly agrees that I am making decisions, but at the same time, she participates in this - because she describes the situation, and I try her opinion too, take into account her position.

Well, and so, in general, ideally, the husband, as the head of the family, should make decisions. I describe what you want to accept - getting down from your bell tower, climbing the bell tower of your wife, look at the situation with her eyes. Then the tear from the bell tower of his wife, climbing the bell tower of the child - he also has his own bell tower - and from his point of view should also be seen.

And, then, then make a decision. Not the way you want, but as everyone needs. And, then, then there will be no authoritarianism, but there will be real authority. But in this authority it will come down from its bell tower - this is true, therefore, this is the only way to be the authority earned. Probably, so Leontiev:-Father Ilya, at the beginning of the conversation, you said that in order to, after all, do not "get away" in marriage-namely, in marriage-you need to "tear out" somewhere.

Here's what you are doing in order to remain together and hear each other? Ilya: - And, here, we are there, then for the first time that this is, and in fact, all the problems are easily solved, when and, then, then you, with a full vessel, go - and you solve all problems, you help children, you spend your vessel and, when the spouses are left alone, plunge into these relations of the dialogue of internal, communication, when they are good at each other, they are the most and they are the most.

And, now, we realized that we also lived with such and, then it might be then we participate there, like co -hosting - for us it was such a certain otchushina. But, I think that everyone needs something like that. And those who passed with us said: “Yes, we began to walk in the evenings. Because all the same, nevertheless, the basis of marriage is a marital union inside a couple.

Children are already, after all, in second place. And the child is already the first degree of kinship yes, salvation, first of all, is then necessary-to solve something with the child.