Fatima Abdulkamim biography

As Russian literature, Avarka, to human rights, brought Fatima Aligadzhieva was born in Dagestan, but grew up in Lipetsk, where her family moved when Fatima was only two years old. Now she is 33, she lives in Moscow and she knows how Fatima Abdulkarim. She chose a nickname, so she called her blog. It is dedicated not to a too cheerful topic, because Fatima is a lawyer. In addition, she is a volunteer in an organization helping women from the North Caucasus.

So, women write to her, they write a lot, they write in the hope that she will solve everything now, make and punish the offender. Daptar talked with Fatima about what problems they most often treat, cheaters and threats, about responsibility for men who are assigned to their wives, and those terrible stories that “in the Caucasus cannot be” do not believe in justice-as I remember, you did not immediately come to law, you have some kind of zigzags.

At first I entered the medical college - dad really wanted, and I agreed. She graduated, made ceramic crowns, even began to earn money, in general, everything was fine with me. But this is according to the assessment from the outside. And it seemed to me that it was a fake life, that something significant was needed, strong to do. This Russian literature ruined me so much. My teacher of Russian and literature always noted that I, the Avar girl, have some kind of acute painful love for the same Russian village.

She chuckled and, paraphrasing “Onegin”, said “Fatima, Russian with my soul” ... And now I am standing, making these crowns, and I myself think: how is it all wrong, how I want to write about all the processes that happen in society, with the installation of the truth, just like that, with a capital letter. In general, I decided that crowns are not a matter of my life. She threw them and ran to the journalism faculty to write and fight injustice.

The flight was thinking high, but it turned out that everything was arranged not as I expected. The wings were immediately soldered to me, they sent me to write about the arrival of the measure and how he arranged everything well. Even then, it was clear to me that this is complete crap and I did not want to write about it. But social networks remained. In VK, I led some groups, and at the journalism, I felt bored: I realized that in order to write I did not need a special education.

And she went to the factory, and then, reflecting, transferred to the legal. I think it was the right choice. Now we have a team of lawyers and lawyers Fatima Abdulkarim and partners. There are six of us, we live in different places: in Moscow, in Dagestan. And we are conducting all categories of affairs. And since I am from Dagestan, our women very often turn to me, they believe that I can understand the features of their problems.

They called me, they said that they would find me, they know where I live in Moscow, that they will erase from the face of the earth - and what are these features? What is the difference between the appeals of conditional Russians from the appeals of women from the Caucasus? In the same Moscow, Lipetsk, Voronezh there is no such unbelief, such legal nihilism and such terrifying helplessness in the minds of people.

Caucasian people always say, they say, we know that nothing can be proved, but maybe we can try, I just wanted to know ... But in fact everything is wrong, often everything can be proved and we have good judges, fair. Appeals from the Caucasus most often sound like this: I want to get a divorce, my husband hits me, my children suffer, but mine and his parents are against a divorce.

And of course, there is almost always a husband there: “the husband threatens”, “walks with weapons”, “the husband said that he would kill”, “that he wouldn’t leave it just like that.” It is sometimes a little scary to me to work with such men. After all, we will meet in court, and in the lawsuit there is my address and my contacts. It was already: they called me, they said that they would find me, they know where I live in Moscow, that they will erase from the face of the earth.

But in the appeals of Nekavkazi women there is no "my parents against a divorce." There are other requests: we need to divide the property, the spouse claims to be children. And there are much fewer threats to the applicants themselves, but they never threatened me at all. A separate topic is maternity capital. I have never had appeals from women from Central Russia, who would tell me that the matkat was cashed out and spent my spouse.

The appeal of women from the Caucasus - from Dagestan, Chechnya, Ingushetia - very often occur precisely on this occasion. They tell how their husbands ordered this uterus. We bought a car, bought an apartment, just spent, and, most often, not consulting with my wife. I think this is due to the fact that in the same Dagestan this can be done. In Moscow, St. Petersburg, Voronezh, this is technically more and more difficult.

And we have an ad on each pillar - I will cash it out! Although, this is an article on fraud. So, there was a reason for you-and you are doing threats ... I am Avarka, I love my people, I love Dagestan, I want to do something good for these people, help them, but lately I have ceased to feel safe there.They constantly write threats, I can’t walk calmly along the street, when I arrive, it was that they shouted something to me, even threw something ...

Some time ago, my name appeared on the lists of one telegram channel. I, like the rest, who got into this list, called the enemy of Islam, the feminist and called to fight with me, throw complaints about my page on Insta and wind up subscribers so that my account was blocked, deleted the page. Well, for a while I was forced to close my page. And after three months it all ended.

But separate messages are periodically received. Including those who make reposts from my page. You will lay out the post, they say, the husband beats his wife that this is impossible and immediately begins - “aaaaa! You write this, denigrate us, you think that we are such savages, do not get to us! And this must be talked about. Here is the situation with a young woman from the village near Kizilyurt, who allegedly suddenly died, and her husband found such.

Her mother and sister insisted on the investigation, talked about bruises on her neck. And I wrote about it. Do you know what kind of comments were? There were very few those who insisted on the innocence of her husband, although, it would seem, the question is precisely in this - they themselves died or killed. So most of the commentators did not bother with this at all, they simply poured dirt on the relatives of this girl and on her, they wrote, they say, it would be normal, worthy, everything would be fine with her.

Recently, a girl turned to me, but not asked for herself, about a friend. That five children were taken away from everyone, her husband accused her of a slutty woman, they said about it to her father, took her into the forest with her brother, beat her, pumped her with some kind of medicine, and they did not show her children. I published this in my story and again the messages rained down that I was “denigrating”, and if the men did this, then “something was like that.” If the same man killed or beat another man, they would have believed in it, and the victim would have immediately found a lot of defenders, but if he beats his wife, they refuse to believe in it, and few people stand up for a woman.

As if she is a thing belonging to a man and no one is doing how he treats his property, with a telecom, a car, a wife ... It seems to me that I have long stopped providing only legal assistance. No matter how strange it sounds, it is also necessary to conduct educational work in the way. And I think that right. How often does this happen? This is me about free and direct appeals.

Each consultation is about an hour, it is necessary to explain whether to explain, or draw up a document. This is not counting those cases when I myself read somewhere about terrible injustice and immediately turn on. Sometimes there is not even a consultation there, but an intermediary. For example, between a woman and her family. For the most part, these are the appeals when a woman beats a woman and relatives do not allow her to divorce.

Sometimes I talk to my mother, with the older sister. I say, imagine how violence against a mother affects the development of children, which they grow. I connected a psychologist, I have a close friend, she is also volunteer. But I never talked with dads, they believe that there is nothing to talk about with a woman. Then they say, yes, we understand, we will do everything.

And most often it turns out that they again want to “reconcile” spouses. That is, to return the woman to where they mock her. I think they talked to me, heard me, learned about the problem, and then in a related circle they fall under the dogma - "our women do not get divorced!" And all these conversations are in favor of the poor. And then the blogger Maryam Aliyev convinced them.

She did not say - he would kill her. She said - he would beat her to such an extent that she will become a vegetable and will be in your arms. Apparently, in their understanding, the beatings are not scary, they could not imagine the murder, such, you know, a foggy threat, but the fact that the husband can cripple their daughter was somehow realized immediately.

And they took the girl. I still had the appeals of girls who said that they had husbands drug addicts. They talked about this to their fathers, they say, I want to divorce, he takes drugs. And even in these cases, the fathers said that we must try to do something, try to cure him. And they did not let them get divorced. They repeated that a good wife should make the drugs do not need drugs.

And this is a very familiar rhetoric: you were married to a person whom you practically do not know and at once all his vices, all bad habits, poor character, and druffity become your responsibility. He does not work, sticks out on some rubbish, hits, quarrels with everyone, and you have a load on his re-education.